Every evening, I start humming “It’s been a hard day’s night”. Usually somewhere around 10 pm. I came up to my PC – and happily switch it on, knowing that somewhere on the globe some other person seeking for a company is doing the same.
I know we will find each other finally –one thousand bites away, since one thousand pixels.
He’ll be smart and strong, and will make me happy…
Is the picture described familiar to you?
I’m in search. Yes, it’s not the first day of my challenge. It’s even not the first week. And, actually, it’s not the first year….
But I still believe that the hope springs eternal in the human breast. I am gaining experience. I am becoming popular on some chats. And – I’ve met a lot of new friends.
During all this period I’ve been thinking a lot about the nature of virtual relations, about technical and moral aspects of online dating services and so on.
And just a few words before I start. Webcams are really and absolutely irreplaceable. And my story is mainly about them. You’ll understand me, when I finish.
1) Web cams help you to be more sincere. When you’re online – you can’t hide behind cool smiles and avatars – anybody will see you as is. And it helps you to get rid of uncalled-for shyness. A live cam says: You are still at home, in the safe embrace of your den. And still – you are talking to some strangers on the other side of the planet. Just a simple acknowledgement of this fact is able to strength your self-confidence greatly. Believe me, I know ;)
2) Webcams help you to be more organized and tidy. I used to spend weekends in my PJ with my hair in a total disaster. Nut now I’m always ready for a talk with my destiny ?. I do care about the first impression about me, and I want it to be as perfect as possible. A gorgeous lady in a perfectly cozy room. It attracts people much more than dirty slattern in a terrible mess. Don’t ask me why I’m so sure about it. ;)
3) Webcam chats help you to understand if you are really ready for something more than email. It’s much easier to do it, when you can look into your vis-à-vis eyes. You can appraise the situation, you can control it. When you have a control – you have a power. Sounds like a psychoanalyst slogan, but… It really helps.
4) Webcams help you to be well-versed in hi-fi hardware and software. All this protocols, headsets, ports and plug-ins…. When you are really about it – I mean online dating now – you are taking care about being modern girl – so you are studying, you are in a constant progress and self-development. It’s good for you, it’s good for your PC. Who knows, may be there is a computer geek sleeping in the depth of your soul?
5) Webcams help you to be sure about your appearance. You are not forced to use this idiotic descriptions of yourself: Long legs and blue eyes, bla-bla-bla… I personally consider the whole idea of this “about yourself” fields to be stupid and humiliating. Are you a piece of tenderloin or what? Web cameras help –just post a link. And a picture of you taken by web cam – fast, easy and always up-to-date. Before I purchased my first web camera I used to write something like “It’s the picture of mine. But the hair is red now and it’s longer and I am very swarthy now because I’d got drowsy in a solarium last weekend”.
6) Free webcams are your protection – when you are making decision “to date or not to date online”. Sometimes women aware of any kind of intimate relations, especially after a hard break-down, divorce or unfortunate attempt of dating offline. Thereby webcams step in as a real life buoy – they let you to start close relations but to keep the distance between you and your “chosen one” under hard control. They can protect you both mentally and physically – against stupid jokes of teens on the peek of their puberty age, against sexual perverts and maniacs, freaks and insane people. If you are looking for a remote control of your personal life – the only possible answer is a webcam. A perfect answer.
7) Live webcams make you polite. We all know how painful could the words be. It’s so easy to print “@#$% you” in a chat room. It’s much harder to SAY it – face to face. Both ways – you are not under risk of being humiliated or insulted anymore, and vice versa – webcams make you think about what you say. And… may be… suppose… they will inspire you to work hard on your accent?
8) Free live web cams are your eyes. The same way you are taking care about the look of your face and room – your vis-à-vis demonstrates not only the true level of his accuracy but his attitude to you – does he care about what you will think about the socks in a pizza box on his table? When you are important to somebody, when he is trying to attract you – he WILL clean up a mess. And shave, and put a clean and tidy T-shirt on.
9) Live webcam chats let you to play roles. You can be a strip-girl or a bluestocking, a strict teacher or a hippie girl. Any role you always dreamed about is now in your hand. I am not about jeopardizing people, no. You should never start something serious based on a lie – but we are looking not only for a fiancé, aren’t we? May be some Broadway producer will catch sight of you, may be you’ll find an amateur theatre or a dance club? And – when you are done with it – just switch a camera of. “Click”. ;)
10) Webcam sites are giving you wings. Date in Paris? Or, may be a short trip to Tokyo? It’s so simple – just find a person from a region you are interested in, and ask him or her to take his laptop out. You can fly around the globe like a butterfly – fast, free of limits and free of charge LOL. And if you will offer the same good turn – you will gain more friends.
11) Live web cams keep you in touch with the world. You’re in a business trip? Click. You are spending Thanksgiving with your Grandma in Utah? But you are still really close to your online friends – on the distance of one mouse-click. You will never loose each other because of a moving to the other state or postmen strike. Google and live web cams – they will save the world someday. That’s for sure.
12) Live cams are making your life brighter. All the benefits described above have one in common. Your dull and irksome life becomes lush, bright, fresh and exuberant; your life is finally in full swing.
The possibilities you are gaining from live webcam dating or friend-search are boundless. You will discover more and more ‘pluses’ on your way. For me video chats are integral part of my life, of my perception of the world, of my happiness. They are my lighthouse in the night and my means to support a friend.
I am looking for my promised. I am gaining friends and experience on the way. I am video-chatting. I am webcam maniac – and totally happy with it. And after I am turning my PC off, I came to bed, kneel and pray:
Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man who's not a creep.
One who's handsome, smart and strong,
Who's not afraid to admit when he is wrong.
One who thinks before he speaks.
When he promises to call, he doesn't wait six weeks.
I pray that he is gainfully employed,
Won't lose his cool when he's annoyed.
Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.
Oh send me a man who will make love to my mind.
Know what to say when I ask "How fat is my behind?"
One who'll make love till my body's a' itchin'
He brings ME a sandwich too, when he goes to the kitchen.
I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And never compare me to my best friend.
Thank you in advance and now I'll just wait,
For I know you will send him before it's too late.
Have a nice webcam evening. Good night.
Tuesday, July 14, 2009
Sunday, July 5, 2009
Dating While Pregnant
Dating can be hard at times and dating during pregnancy is no exception. There are no rules to say you shouldn’t date while pregnant, it is a personal choice. Some see it as being no different to dating when you have children, while others feel it is wrong to get intimate with someone while carrying someone else’s baby. The most important thing to remember is always be honest about your pregnancy when dating someone new. Being open about your pregnancy could potentially be a turn off for some men, but others find it an attractive feature.
Deciding who to date and finding a date can be difficult anyway, but while pregnant you need to think about your baby as well as yourself. You may be attracted to the type of man who is great date material, but they may not be the type of person you would want around your new baby. Remember that it isn’t just you that this decision effects, it’s your unborn baby too. It is a good idea to outline the qualities that you are looking for in a man before you start to date. You must also decide if you are actually looking for someone who will be there for you after the baby is born. If you wish them to play a part in your baby’s life then you need to be confident in the person you find. Don’t compromise for someone who you know will be there for you and the baby, you need to make sure you have a connection with them too.
Once you have found a date, make sure that you are open about your pregnancy from the start. It is easy to hide pregnancy in the beginning, but after the first trimester it will become harder. Don’t be afraid to tell your date that you are pregnant; it is nothing to be embarrassed about. The news may be a shock to them, especially if you are in the first trimester, but telling them from the very start is a good way to find out if they are suitable for you or not. If every time you mention your baby, your date changes the subject and refuses to talk about it, then this is an obvious sign that they are not interested at all about your baby, and this type of partner is best avoided. If they are judgemental towards you, then they are definitely not worth wasting your time over. The news may initially scare some men off, but others will not even consider it an issue. Telling them simply identifies the suitable partners from the unsuitable partners.
If your date is perfect for you and is supportive about the pregnancy, it is important that you talk to him about the future. Find out his intentions for when the baby arrives, otherwise you could end up getting hurt. You need to be certain that he is there to stay and support you. Starting the relationship with honesty is the best way to have a successful relationship not only between you and your partner, but between you, your partner and your new baby.
Deciding who to date and finding a date can be difficult anyway, but while pregnant you need to think about your baby as well as yourself. You may be attracted to the type of man who is great date material, but they may not be the type of person you would want around your new baby. Remember that it isn’t just you that this decision effects, it’s your unborn baby too. It is a good idea to outline the qualities that you are looking for in a man before you start to date. You must also decide if you are actually looking for someone who will be there for you after the baby is born. If you wish them to play a part in your baby’s life then you need to be confident in the person you find. Don’t compromise for someone who you know will be there for you and the baby, you need to make sure you have a connection with them too.
Once you have found a date, make sure that you are open about your pregnancy from the start. It is easy to hide pregnancy in the beginning, but after the first trimester it will become harder. Don’t be afraid to tell your date that you are pregnant; it is nothing to be embarrassed about. The news may be a shock to them, especially if you are in the first trimester, but telling them from the very start is a good way to find out if they are suitable for you or not. If every time you mention your baby, your date changes the subject and refuses to talk about it, then this is an obvious sign that they are not interested at all about your baby, and this type of partner is best avoided. If they are judgemental towards you, then they are definitely not worth wasting your time over. The news may initially scare some men off, but others will not even consider it an issue. Telling them simply identifies the suitable partners from the unsuitable partners.
If your date is perfect for you and is supportive about the pregnancy, it is important that you talk to him about the future. Find out his intentions for when the baby arrives, otherwise you could end up getting hurt. You need to be certain that he is there to stay and support you. Starting the relationship with honesty is the best way to have a successful relationship not only between you and your partner, but between you, your partner and your new baby.
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