Thursday, August 6, 2009

Making Sweet Love, Naughty or Nice

From a particularly early age many people were taught to be considerate of others. This might remind you about having to politely thank your Great Aunt for the appalling pink and orange-striped sweater she knit for you. If so , we encourage you to re-think thoughtfulness. It is not something you've got to do. Instead, it's something you can select and may help your love relationship be more intimate, close and passionate.

Being considerate probably doesn't sound really intimate to you. It tends to be all about opening doors for folk, remembering a pal's birthday, or shoveling snow from a neighbor's driveway.

We believe that when you elect to be considerate, you are making a choice to focus your love and attention on the other person. When you trowel the neighbor's driveway and feel chuffed to do it-not obligated or guilted into doing it-the warm feelings between you and your neighbor are likely going to grow. The considerate act not only benefits the neighbor very literally, it benefits you because it feels good to help some other person when your action is coming from the heart.

The same goes with your love relationship. Too often, we give adore and care to everyone else BUT our partner. It is too straightforward to take for granted that your partner will be there regardless of how you treat him. It also feels good!

Tip one : considerate Acts

As we alluded to above, the kindness is pretty much lost if you are feeling like you must do whatever it is. If you would like to be more considerate towards your buddy but those shoulds are still there, try concentrating on gratitude. You can even make a catalogue of everything you are thankful for in your relationship. It probably won't take long for those shoulds to melt and then you can select what you'd like to do.

Be aware of what your love likes and is touched by. Use those clues for ideas. One man regularly treats his love with a warm, clean towel fresh from the dryer as she out of the shower. An act like this can even turn from considerate to sensual!

Sometimes the ways we think about our partner, our self and our relationship do not serve anyone concerned. Do you tend to expect the worst from your chum ( and/or yourself ) ? Do you view your other half ( and/or yourself ) with a critical eye on the lookout for what you'd like to improve? Many people fall into these habits. Believe it or not, even if you do not say a thing, a negative thought can be felt.

If you notice the majority of your thoughts just don't serve you, your better half or your relationship, it's not too late to make a shift. We all have grouchy days when even the sun shining and flowers blooming are aggravating. When moments and thoughts like this arise, acknowledge them and then see what else you can notice. Maybe your partner's table manners drive you nuts but the incontrovertible fact that he or she cooked a tasty wonderful meal for the two of you causes you to feel good and appreciative. You can opt to give more energy to what you appreciate.

If having a more intimate and obsessed relationship sounds appealing to you, try opening up to more thoughtfulness. Increase your considerate acts and thoughts for a week and see how you're feeling. You partner may even catch on to the experiment and join you!

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

I Have Kids, Should I Tell My Date?

Yes, yes, and yes! Let your date know you have kids on your first date. If your date can't accept the fact that you have kids then this is a red flag that you should not go on a date with this person. Your kids are part of who you are, if your date has a problem with this then they have a problem with you.

Kenneth says to himself, I really like Sharon, and I know she is single and has no kids cause I overheard her tell her trainer Irene at the gym that she doesn't. I really want to ask her out on a date, but I have four kids that I'm raising on my own and I don't think she'll like me when she finds out. I'm not sure what I should do.

Sharon says to herself, there's this guy I met at the gym his name is Kenneth. I really like him, he always seems to know the right things to say and is so polite! I'd really like to go out with him. I just don't think he'll go out with me. I'm feeling guilty because I lied to my trainer Irene the other day and told her that I don't have any kids. I actually have three children. I told Irene this out loud so Kenneth could hear what I said and maybe he might want to date me. I'm not sure what I should do now. I'd really like to go out with Kenneth. I just don't know how I should tell him about my kids.

How do I go about telling my date about my kids? You can tell your date about your kids by using some of these tips:

1. Invite your date to pick you up for your date at your home and introduce them to your kids.

2. Consider making a meal for your date at your home and have your kids take part in the meal. This is the perfect opportunity for you to introduce you date to your kids.

3. During your date while making conversation, let your date know you have children. Also take
the opportunity to find out if your date has children as well.

4. If you correspond with your date via telephone or email prior to seeing each other in person,
let your date know you have kids.

You say, I told my date that I have kids and they don't want to go on another date with me, what should I do? Do nothing, consider yourself lucky that you found out that your date does not like kids. You didn't need to be with that person anyway. Good ritenance to them. Just move on! Date someone who will accept you and your kids, that's more important.

The sooner you let your date know you have kids the sooner you can get past this issue if it becomes a problem. The whole idea of dating is to date someone you are compatible with and who will want you for who you are no matter if you have children!

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Conecting People with Webcam

Every evening, I start humming “It’s been a hard day’s night”. Usually somewhere around 10 pm. I came up to my PC – and happily switch it on, knowing that somewhere on the globe some other person seeking for a company is doing the same.
I know we will find each other finally –one thousand bites away, since one thousand pixels.
He’ll be smart and strong, and will make me happy…
Is the picture described familiar to you?

I’m in search. Yes, it’s not the first day of my challenge. It’s even not the first week. And, actually, it’s not the first year….

But I still believe that the hope springs eternal in the human breast. I am gaining experience. I am becoming popular on some chats. And – I’ve met a lot of new friends.

During all this period I’ve been thinking a lot about the nature of virtual relations, about technical and moral aspects of online dating services and so on.

And just a few words before I start. Webcams are really and absolutely irreplaceable. And my story is mainly about them. You’ll understand me, when I finish.

1) Web cams help you to be more sincere. When you’re online – you can’t hide behind cool smiles and avatars – anybody will see you as is. And it helps you to get rid of uncalled-for shyness. A live cam says: You are still at home, in the safe embrace of your den. And still – you are talking to some strangers on the other side of the planet. Just a simple acknowledgement of this fact is able to strength your self-confidence greatly. Believe me, I know ;)

2) Webcams help you to be more organized and tidy. I used to spend weekends in my PJ with my hair in a total disaster. Nut now I’m always ready for a talk with my destiny ?. I do care about the first impression about me, and I want it to be as perfect as possible. A gorgeous lady in a perfectly cozy room. It attracts people much more than dirty slattern in a terrible mess. Don’t ask me why I’m so sure about it. ;)

3) Webcam chats help you to understand if you are really ready for something more than email. It’s much easier to do it, when you can look into your vis-à-vis eyes. You can appraise the situation, you can control it. When you have a control – you have a power. Sounds like a psychoanalyst slogan, but… It really helps.

4) Webcams help you to be well-versed in hi-fi hardware and software. All this protocols, headsets, ports and plug-ins…. When you are really about it – I mean online dating now – you are taking care about being modern girl – so you are studying, you are in a constant progress and self-development. It’s good for you, it’s good for your PC. Who knows, may be there is a computer geek sleeping in the depth of your soul?

5) Webcams help you to be sure about your appearance. You are not forced to use this idiotic descriptions of yourself: Long legs and blue eyes, bla-bla-bla… I personally consider the whole idea of this “about yourself” fields to be stupid and humiliating. Are you a piece of tenderloin or what? Web cameras help –just post a link. And a picture of you taken by web cam – fast, easy and always up-to-date. Before I purchased my first web camera I used to write something like “It’s the picture of mine. But the hair is red now and it’s longer and I am very swarthy now because I’d got drowsy in a solarium last weekend”.

6) Free webcams are your protection – when you are making decision “to date or not to date online”. Sometimes women aware of any kind of intimate relations, especially after a hard break-down, divorce or unfortunate attempt of dating offline. Thereby webcams step in as a real life buoy – they let you to start close relations but to keep the distance between you and your “chosen one” under hard control. They can protect you both mentally and physically – against stupid jokes of teens on the peek of their puberty age, against sexual perverts and maniacs, freaks and insane people. If you are looking for a remote control of your personal life – the only possible answer is a webcam. A perfect answer.

7) Live webcams make you polite. We all know how painful could the words be. It’s so easy to print “@#$% you” in a chat room. It’s much harder to SAY it – face to face. Both ways – you are not under risk of being humiliated or insulted anymore, and vice versa – webcams make you think about what you say. And… may be… suppose… they will inspire you to work hard on your accent?

8) Free live web cams are your eyes. The same way you are taking care about the look of your face and room – your vis-à-vis demonstrates not only the true level of his accuracy but his attitude to you – does he care about what you will think about the socks in a pizza box on his table? When you are important to somebody, when he is trying to attract you – he WILL clean up a mess. And shave, and put a clean and tidy T-shirt on.

9) Live webcam chats let you to play roles. You can be a strip-girl or a bluestocking, a strict teacher or a hippie girl. Any role you always dreamed about is now in your hand. I am not about jeopardizing people, no. You should never start something serious based on a lie – but we are looking not only for a fiancé, aren’t we? May be some Broadway producer will catch sight of you, may be you’ll find an amateur theatre or a dance club? And – when you are done with it – just switch a camera of. “Click”. ;)

10) Webcam sites are giving you wings. Date in Paris? Or, may be a short trip to Tokyo? It’s so simple – just find a person from a region you are interested in, and ask him or her to take his laptop out. You can fly around the globe like a butterfly – fast, free of limits and free of charge LOL. And if you will offer the same good turn – you will gain more friends.

11) Live web cams keep you in touch with the world. You’re in a business trip? Click. You are spending Thanksgiving with your Grandma in Utah? But you are still really close to your online friends – on the distance of one mouse-click. You will never loose each other because of a moving to the other state or postmen strike. Google and live web cams – they will save the world someday. That’s for sure.

12) Live cams are making your life brighter. All the benefits described above have one in common. Your dull and irksome life becomes lush, bright, fresh and exuberant; your life is finally in full swing.

The possibilities you are gaining from live webcam dating or friend-search are boundless. You will discover more and more ‘pluses’ on your way. For me video chats are integral part of my life, of my perception of the world, of my happiness. They are my lighthouse in the night and my means to support a friend.

I am looking for my promised. I am gaining friends and experience on the way. I am video-chatting. I am webcam maniac – and totally happy with it. And after I am turning my PC off, I came to bed, kneel and pray:

Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man who's not a creep.

One who's handsome, smart and strong,
Who's not afraid to admit when he is wrong.

One who thinks before he speaks.
When he promises to call, he doesn't wait six weeks.

I pray that he is gainfully employed,
Won't lose his cool when he's annoyed.

Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.

Oh send me a man who will make love to my mind.
Know what to say when I ask "How fat is my behind?"

One who'll make love till my body's a' itchin'
He brings ME a sandwich too, when he goes to the kitchen.

I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And never compare me to my best friend.

Thank you in advance and now I'll just wait,
For I know you will send him before it's too late.

Have a nice webcam evening. Good night.

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Dating While Pregnant

Dating can be hard at times and dating during pregnancy is no exception. There are no rules to say you shouldn’t date while pregnant, it is a personal choice. Some see it as being no different to dating when you have children, while others feel it is wrong to get intimate with someone while carrying someone else’s baby. The most important thing to remember is always be honest about your pregnancy when dating someone new. Being open about your pregnancy could potentially be a turn off for some men, but others find it an attractive feature.

Deciding who to date and finding a date can be difficult anyway, but while pregnant you need to think about your baby as well as yourself. You may be attracted to the type of man who is great date material, but they may not be the type of person you would want around your new baby. Remember that it isn’t just you that this decision effects, it’s your unborn baby too. It is a good idea to outline the qualities that you are looking for in a man before you start to date. You must also decide if you are actually looking for someone who will be there for you after the baby is born. If you wish them to play a part in your baby’s life then you need to be confident in the person you find. Don’t compromise for someone who you know will be there for you and the baby, you need to make sure you have a connection with them too.

Once you have found a date, make sure that you are open about your pregnancy from the start. It is easy to hide pregnancy in the beginning, but after the first trimester it will become harder. Don’t be afraid to tell your date that you are pregnant; it is nothing to be embarrassed about. The news may be a shock to them, especially if you are in the first trimester, but telling them from the very start is a good way to find out if they are suitable for you or not. If every time you mention your baby, your date changes the subject and refuses to talk about it, then this is an obvious sign that they are not interested at all about your baby, and this type of partner is best avoided. If they are judgemental towards you, then they are definitely not worth wasting your time over. The news may initially scare some men off, but others will not even consider it an issue. Telling them simply identifies the suitable partners from the unsuitable partners.

If your date is perfect for you and is supportive about the pregnancy, it is important that you talk to him about the future. Find out his intentions for when the baby arrives, otherwise you could end up getting hurt. You need to be certain that he is there to stay and support you. Starting the relationship with honesty is the best way to have a successful relationship not only between you and your partner, but between you, your partner and your new baby.

Monday, June 29, 2009

Camfrog Video Chat

If you're sick of hopping from one chatware program to another, looking for the perfect mix of video, audio, and text socializing, CamFrog might be what you're looking for.

The chat rooms feature everything from music lessons to sign language to non-English chatting, and integrating video, audio, and text components are a great leap forward for chat communities since a Webcam is not a requirement. Be warned, though: There's also a slew of X-rated chat rooms--this is not a program that kids should use without supervision. The interface should be familiar to anyone who has used any messaging software. You can create your own chat room and password-protect it, and the Contacts list has a section for favorite rooms and one-click contact adding, user searching, and profile management. New in Version 5 is high-resolution video support, interface tweaks, and the ability to send little "virtual gifts" to both friends and anonymous recipients that borders on the annoying.

Cautious users should note that the install includes several toolbars and a Weather Channel widget, which you can opt out of. Despite those drawbacks, if you're looking for a well-trafficked video chat program that serves a diverse community, CamFrog is cool place to land. Free DOWNLOAD HERE.


ManyCam is the freeware tool for you if you use both CamFrog and ICQ, or any other video chat program, and you want to use them simultaneously. It creates a "virtual" Webcam that replicates your currently installed camera. It then lets multiple applications access the video stream without conflict.
ManyCam is compatible with Yahoo, MSN, CamFrog, PalTalk, ICQ, Skype, YouTube, and more. Once you've installed ManyCam, you need to set ManyCam as the primary input for program that you want to use. ManyCam will automatically start when activate your Webcam through that program. The application includes a bunch of gimmicky features that let you change aspects of the background and foreground. You can map a new pair of cartoon eyes over your face, and they track pretty well to your movements, or you can show that your life is hell by replacing the background with flames.

There is an unfortunate toolbar that will install unless you opt out during setup, but other than that ManyCam is worthy of a Webcam Oscar for cool and useful tech.


Selection of Free Dating Sites Made Easy

With the free dating sites increasing in their numbers, most of the novice online daters get confused to select the best website for their use. However, the increasing number of teenagers joining online dating arena and the increasing cyber crimes have become a growing area of concern among the parents and selecting the right kind of sites have become crucial. It is not that easy to keep the teenagers and their curiosity away from the free dating sites, but at least we can teach them how to select the best site for online dating so that they will protect themselves from the risks that are associated with online dating.

Millions of free dating sites are mushrooming across the web. But, all those sites are not genuine. Some scam sites generate emails and send it to their clients which appear as if they are from the individual members. You need to be aware of such sites and find the sites that are professional. If you are searching the free dating sites with the help of search engines, pick the ones that are in this service for years.

If you are selecting the free dating sites for your online dating expedition, make sure that the sites are 100% free. Sometimes, it happens that you are not aware of the hidden costs that you have to pay once you are registered with the sites. Hence, make sure you read all the instructions carefully before signing up for your account. You should expect every service on that site free of cost starting from registration to sending mails and chatting.

Be aware of the free dating sites that don’t ask many questions. While asking questions, the websites try to conform about your legitimacy. You may rest assure that other members have also gone through such tests and are genuine. Still you have to be careful about revealing your personal details to other members as long as you don’t know them properly. Of late, the free dating sites are also being increasingly concerned about the security of their members’ data. Ensure the security measures taken by the sites.

If you are skeptical about choosing one of the free dating sites, you can ask your friends or someone else who have used the services of the sites. The experiences of the users on those sites are more important for you to compare between the sites. The best option left for you is use the search engines and find the best online dating sits that offer completely free services. You can also search for the reviews of those sites.

These days, the webmasters of the free dating sites are revitalizing their sites to attract more numbers of customers. The competition has given rise to the efforts of the webmasters to provide better services than their competitors. Hence, with most of the sites you can get convenience and security with convenience of getting connected to many members. Still, you have to do proper homework before selecting the websites where you want to start your online dating.

How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work for You

Long distance relationships can be just as successful as a relationship where the two people involved are together on a daily basis. Everyone is different and some adapt well to long distance relationships whereas others are unable to cope. It often comes down to your upbringing. Being raised in a close family where both parents were always about could mean that you won’t cope well to living a long way from your partner. Alternatively being brought up with only one parent or in a family where relatives were absent regularly, then you will probably handle a long distance relationship well. However a long distance relationship establishes it is down to both people involved to keep the relationship alive.

The two main factors in maintaining a healthy long distance relationships is, trust and communication. Without these your relationship will most certainly suffer. Trust pays a huge part in any relationship. In a relationship without trust you usually have jealously. Trying to survive in a long distance relationship with jealousy and lack of trust is practically impossible. You will constantly be checking up on your partner, worrying about what they are doing and who they are doing things with. You may even find yourself being the partner being checked up on. Knowing your partner doesn’t trust you is disheartening, especially if you have given them no reason to do so. The last thing you want in a long distance relationship is interrogation; you need reassurance and affection instead.

Communication is vital for a long distance relationship to work. You must understand how each partner is feeling and try to resolve any issues. Ask your partner how they feel and ask about the future. Don’t be scared to ask questions, after all it is your relationship too. Knowing where you stand will help you to sort out your perspective for the future and prevent any confusion further down the line. Instead of assuming that you are exclusive to each other and that you will one day live together again or even for the first time, make sure you have discussed this, or you may find yourself waiting for that perfect relationship that just won’t happen.

During a long distance relationship make sure that you communicate on a regular basis, ideally on a daily basis. It isn’t always possible to talk on the phone everyday, but there are other ways to make contact. Send a text message, write a letter, send an email, send a recent photo and even send a present. Try to meet up as often as you can and once planned, stick to the arrangements. Sharing the same experience simultaneously is a great idea to make you feel closer, such as watching the same television programme or film; you can then discuss your viewings together afterwards. This is just one way to make it feel like you still have a connection together. Another idea is to stargaze at the same time, which in itself is romantic. Your aim is to keep the emotional connection alive and keep the relationship healthy.

Having a positive outlook on your long distance relationship will help you partner to stay positive and feel secure. If you are determined to make a long distance relationship work for you then there is no reason at all why distance between you and your partner can prevent your relationship from working; it is all about personal perspective, trust and good communication.

Why Free Dating Sites are So Popular Among Online Daters

Free dating sites are favorite hang outs of many people. The increasing popularity of these sites is due to its cost-free services for the members along with chances of meeting with people from all walks of life. Joining the e-bandwagon of searching their loves online many single have joined the free dating sites online in the recent years. Apart from single there are many married individuals who are giving themselves a shot by using the services of free dating sites.

But why are the free dating sites so popular? Is it only due to the money you can save by using the services? Or there are other reasons.

It is a Way to Enter the World Contemporary Cyber Dating
The society has gone far away from the traditional style of looking for the love in pubs or bars or nightclubs. People believe that they can’t afford to spend much time for this traditional method of dating which is less effective. In the traditional method, you meet people then you know them and then comes the time to take decision of starting relationship. But, dating via free dating site goes the other way. You contact people only after knowing them by reading their profiles. Before you meet the person face to face, you can talk to them, chat with them and meet them only if you find them worth meeting. Isn’t more effective a way to start a relationship?

Waiting For the Reply? No, not in Free Dating Sites…
If you compare the traditional dating methods with that of the free dating sites, you can find that a world of difference between both of them. Earlier, people would wait for the answer from their prospective partner after requesting them or sending them a message. If the reply is yes, they are really lucky. Otherwise, they would look for someone else only after the other person denies their request. But, free dating sites are totally different. You can search the profiles and send messages to more that one people matching your criteria. In fact, you can select more than one prospective partner and compare them to know what will come up from their relation.

Numerous Options with Free Dating Sites
Well, the time has come when almost everyone is joining the cyber dating arena. But free dating sites are getting preference over the paid ones by the Internet users. Hence, you can get more number of members from almost every walk of life on the free dating sites.
When options are numerous, chances are high of getting a suitable partner.

Best For the Beginners
Like any other actions of life, online dating also needs a lot of practice. While starting with online dating you might have several questions such as ‘how to create profiles?’ ‘how to search people?’ ‘ how to break the ice with someone you like?’ ‘ how to ask someone for date?’, etc. Free dating sites are the best platform where you can start your practice of online dating without paying a single penny for the services.

Take the best advantage of free dating sites and enjoy your life out there.

Make New Pals Online Trough Online Chat Rooms

Online chat rooms offer you facilities to see the face of your online friends via web cam chat. You can start dating. You can share your feeling and ideas to your new friend. This is the main reason of popularity of online chat rooms.

Online chat rooms are very popular among teenagers and youngsters. Video chat gives you feeling that you are near to your friend and relative. You can talk to your friend on various matters. The love story of various youngsters and teenagers starts from net. This is why internet plays an important role in searching a good and dependable friend and soul mate. It is quite possible that you can get your soul mate through net.

Web is the perfect place where you can get correct information on various websites. Some people give their real picture in the online chat rooms; on the other hand there are many people who give fake picture. You should not reveal your real identity and real picture to any stranger until and unless you know them well via long chats.

Chat rooms are designed to entertain people but there are many people who misuse the chat rooms for their benefits. Many websites ask their members that they will not use vulgar and offensive languages with anyone in the chat room. It hurts a lot the sentiments of other people. You should not show any kind of emotions while you are chatting. You can easily personalize you chat. None can interfere in your personal chat.

If you are alone you can make many online friend and chat with them whenever you want. You will never feel alone while you are chatting on net. Chat rooms provides you company of your friends and relative. Internet has provided many valuable gifts to the man. Online chatting is one of them. With the help of online chatting you can make your pals from several part of this world.

You can chat with your pals and share picture and music. You can do everything whatever you want. These rooms keep the identity of every people anonymous. You can chat and have fun with everyone in any place of the earth and you can also hide your identity. In these popular online chat rooms you can get many people who have same interests as you possess.

You can share the feelings of your hearts. At the same time online chat is very beneficial thing for you. Online you can get the guidance and experiences of scholars. In the present time, online dating is very common. You can easily start online chat if you want to find prince charming or a dream partner for you. Online chat gives you the opportunity to find a soul mate for you.

It is very easy to have date with many people through online chat room. You can see them and chat with them. So you need not to worry that you are alone in this world. Your pals are always with you and live in your heart. You can talk them whenever you want in online chat rooms.